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Relationships Part II

What does the Bible have to say about relationships and how do we apply those particular scriptures to our everyday life? What is God's will for believers regarding how we are to conduct ourselves whether we're dating, engaged, married or happily single? If you are asking these questions, it says that you are seeking to learn, to understand, and are willing to engage in the process of embracing God's wisdom concerning the in’s and out’s of relationships.

What is the principle thing that each one of us should be seeking after in this life? Please read Matthew 6:19-33. Pay special attention to verses 30-33 (the Message):

“If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.

And the King James version of verse 33 says, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." 

"All these things" includes our relationship concerns. Many of us are praying, God do something for me! Instead we should be praying, God do something to me - on the inside! Many of us are seeking God for Him to give us something we want or to make something happen for us. When we really need to seek to know God - first. That should be our greatest desire.

The central focus of the Bible is not a set of practical principles for life, even though they are in there. But the central theme of the Bible is the Son of God, in the person of Jesus Christ. If all you and I had needed was a knowledge and understanding of a certain set of God-revealed principles for living, Jesus would not have needed to come. But what we are in need of is a Savior. We could not have a relationship with God if Christ had not come. Our sin would have kept us separated from God regardless of how "good" or "moral" we tried to be.

Salvation comes by grace as a free gift through Christ's sacrifice, not by anything that we do. However, once you come into a true relationship with Christ and you are sanctified or made righteous through His shed blood, it will be reflected in your character and in your conduct - you will be transformed, a new creature. Not a perfect creature, but a redeemed creature! One whose desire is to live a life that glorifies God, who is our First Love.

Christ has made a relationship with God possible. And God is able to process us with His wisdom, if we yield and cooperate. Therefore, it is possible to build and sustain a healthy Godly relational lifestyle. We don't have to live in or settle for Christless relationships.

Proverbs 1:5 says, "a wise man (or woman) will hear, and will increase learning; and a man (or woman) of understanding shall attain unto wise counsel". You must hear so that you can be instructed by God. And then God's counsel or instruction will cause you to develop skills that will edify your life, including your relationships - which means you will acquire wisdom.

How do we HEAR God? How do we become wise? How do we embrace the wisdom needed for our life's journey?

If you have a relationship with the Lord, you are going to be challenged to grow and mature in wisdom. He will not allow you to stay the same. In other words, God will deal with us by using the experiences and situations in our lives - especially the ones that are hard for us to face - because those are the areas that require processing..... 

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